Dear Reader

Happy 2024!

How was the holiday period for you? I know that for many, the return to be with family over the holidays can reactivate childhood attachment patterns. This could be a great opportunity to notice in a disidentified way, which patterns from your relationship with care-givers are hampering your ability to have happy, fulfilled, autonomous and conscious relationships.

Continue reading below for a special new year's offer (only available in January).

Many of those exploring open relating often suffer because their need for safety and security is tied to their anchor partner, like a childhood need for a parent. This pattern is often what drives people to stick with monogamy and is part of what makes multigamy so difficult.
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Despite choosing open relating rationally, the body can still react like it's a threat.
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Unconscious monogamy can ofer the illusion of safety, until something unforeseen happens that shatters that illusion.
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Open relating serves to shine a light on just how illusory the safety of monogamy can be and leads to finding real emotional security .

How can you break unconscious monogamy programming?

• By opening your mind to different ways of loving and building relationships.
• By understanding and noticing the difference between love and attachment.
• By becoming more differentiated from your partner and learning how codependency exists/existed in your present/past relationship.

When strong feelings of jealousy and fear arise, how can you get your body to respond the way your logical brain wants you to?

• By becoming aware of the attachment wounding or trauma that directly impacts how your body reacts to perceived threats.
• By undertaking therapy to heal these wounds and developing somatic (body-based) practices that help regulate the nervous system.
• By learning to become more resilient to levels of discomfort that used to scare you.

My website has a wealth of resources that can help unpack this and learn how to navigate alternative relationship dynamics. Granted, it's not the most organised website but if you browse a bit you will find:

• ​Videos of my past talks and workshops​
• ​Podcast interviews with different hosts​
• ​A whole set of articles about jealousy ​
• ​A glossary of commonly used words and phrases to help with clear communication in alternative, conscious relationships.

My wish for 2024 is to help more people discover pathways to happy healthy relationships that are compatible with their boundaries, needs and desires.

I wish for you, that which you wish for yourself.

From monogamy to multigamy

Recorded workshop and presentation from December 2023, for couples who desire to open their relationship right.

For the month of January, this is offered at half price for newsletter subscribers (code: newsletter).

All the recorded talks and webinars are available for half price in January!

The next online peer support is on January 14.

The monthly group session continues for small-group deep dives, mutual support and amazing insights. From February it will be held on the first Sunday of each month (with breaks for summer July-August).

Book a session with me in 2024

Your initial consultation is 20 minutes and carries a fee. It can provide a lot of value on it's own if you have something specific that want insight or advice on.

When you go on to book a session, the amount you've paid for the initial consultation will be credited to you using a discount code.