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Roy Graff

Open Relating

Relationship Coach and Psychotherapist specialising in non-traditional and alternative relationship dynamics. Affirming and experienced with Polyamory, kink, neurodivergence and queer identities.

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Open Relating newsletter - April 2024

Dear Reader April newsletter is short and to the point. I spent the month of March buried in books and research, racing to submit my MA thesis by the end of month deadling. It is now behind me and I am looking forward to being more active online and in-person with workshops, courses and events. I am open to your feedback, questions and requests on which topics I should cover in upcoming online workshops. The next peer support will be this Sunday, April 7th. I am including in this newsletter a...

22 days ago • 2 min read

Dear Reader I hope that you are starting to see spring around you. It could be the first buds emerging, new leaves on trees, certain birds returning.. or it could be an internal feeling of emerging from hybernation, renewed curiosity and a sense of adventure. This March newsletter addresses the recent spike of articles and media interest in polyamory - some positive, some negative and much of it uneducated and misdirected. I include links to some of my content that can help clear up some of...

about 2 months ago • 4 min read
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Dear Reader I am not writing to you intentionally on Valentine's day week - I simply didn't get around to sending the newsletter at the start of the month. I had a week's snow-filled holiday at the end of January followed by a scheduled minor operation - a vasectomy, which needed a few days recovery at the start of this month. Curiously when I posted about my vasectomy on Threads, it received more likes by far, than anything I have posted there ever. Someone even accused me of being paid by...

2 months ago • 1 min read
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Dear Reader Happy 2024! How was the holiday period for you? I know that for many, the return to be with family over the holidays can reactivate childhood attachment patterns. This could be a great opportunity to notice in a disidentified way, which patterns from your relationship with care-givers are hampering your ability to have happy, fulfilled, autonomous and conscious relationships. Continue reading below for a special new year's offer (only available in January). Many of those exploring...

4 months ago • 2 min read

Dear Reader Is there a community for you, where you live? One of the biggest lessons for me, from the years of practicing polyamory, is that a friendship network and feeling of community is the single biggest contributor to overall well-being and sense of emotional security. It's much more important, I believe, than having a romantic partner at all times. And it can be scary, as adults, to seek out platonic friendships. There are lots of dating apps, but not so friendship apps. The good news...

5 months ago • 5 min read

peace is in short supply these days... Dear Reader What's in this newsletter? On needing more love in the world Roy's interview on sensuali.com A new online workshop for couples who are opening up their relationship. Play fighting - new page Having counselling with me Online and in-person events in November/December Question on de-escalating a relationship We need more love in this world I usually write about relationships. About creating and sustaining healthy, conscious, vulnerable and...

6 months ago • 5 min read

peace is in short supply these days... Dear Reader What's in this newsletter? On needing more love in the world Roy's interview on sensuali.com A new online workshop for couples who are opening up their relationship. Play fighting - new page Having counselling with me Online and in-person events in November/December Question on de-escalating a relationship We need more love in this world I usually write about relationships. About creating and sustaining healthy, conscious, vulnerable and...

6 months ago • 5 min read

conscious play fighting - embodied boundaries & flow Dear Reader Happy Autumn. I recently read a beautiful sentiment by Mel from @radicalrelating about how this season, with the trees giving up their leave in preparation for renewal, can teach us about letting go and embracing change and transformation. What is in this month's newsletter? My recent podcast interview on the weirdly named smutdrop (from the Metro newspaper) Where does my sense of value come from? (recent blog article) New...

7 months ago • 6 min read

Dear Reader I am being dilligent with this month's newsletter and sending it good and early in September. I hope that this can become my habit, but I won't hold my breath. In the last newsletter, I forgot to include the video of my 14 minute, TED-style talk about polyamory at Manchester's Sex Lectures in July. It isn't publicly available but I wanted to share it with you (link below). In this newsletter, I talk about the 2 online events I am running this month and a refresh I've done to one...

8 months ago • 5 min read

Dear Reader Happy summer dusk and autumn dawn! I have a sense of completion after my summer adventures, as well as new beginnings, with the events I am planning in the next few months. One important beginning is that I've received my diploma in Psychosynthesis counselling and am starting to expand my private counseling and therapy practice, on top of the coaching I have been doing. If you are looking for a holistic therapist that integrates both talk therapy and somatic work, and is fully...

8 months ago • 4 min read
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