Roy Graff

conscious play fighting - embodied boundaries & flow Dear Reader Happy Autumn. I recently read a beautiful sentiment by Mel from @radicalrelating about how this season, with the trees giving up their leave in preparation for renewal, can teach us about letting go and embracing change and transformation. What is in this month's newsletter? My recent podcast interview on the weirdly named smutdrop (from the Metro newspaper) Where does my sense of value come from? (recent blog article) New...

Dear Reader I am being dilligent with this month's newsletter and sending it good and early in September. I hope that this can become my habit, but I won't hold my breath. In the last newsletter, I forgot to include the video of my 14 minute, TED-style talk about polyamory at Manchester's Sex Lectures in July. It isn't publicly available but I wanted to share it with you (link below). In this newsletter, I talk about the 2 online events I am running this month and a refresh I've done to...

Dear Reader Happy summer dusk and autumn dawn! I have a sense of completion after my summer adventures, as well as new beginnings, with the events I am planning in the next few months. One important beginning is that I've received my diploma in Psychosynthesis counselling and am starting to expand my private counseling and therapy practice, on top of the coaching I have been doing. If you are looking for a holistic therapist that integrates both talk therapy and somatic work, and is fully...

Dear Reader Happy summer dusk and autumn dawn! I have a sense of completion after my summer adventures, as well as new beginnings, with the events I am planning in the next few months. One important beginning is that I've received my diploma in Psychosynthesis counselling and am starting to expand my private counseling and therapy practice, on top of the coaching I have been doing. If you are looking for a holistic therapist that integrates both talk therapy and somatic work, and is fully...

Dear Reader, The heat is on! while it is not easy to hold conflicting feelings about the weather, our brains are designed to do just that. I can be at once very worried that global warming is giving us a long stretch of 26+ degrees Celsius in the UK in early June and what that means for our species down the line, while at the same time rejoicing at the chance to hang out in parks, wear shorts and see how the heat is melting people's hearts. Holding duality is also what we do when jealousy...

Happy spring, I will keep this short, as I am writing it from a small village in southern Spain where I am taking a couple of weeks' holiday with family. The sun and warmth are very welcome. There are worrying trends all over the world of a descent towards fascism and intolerance. It is up to all of us who believe in openness, love and compassion to also combat close-mindedness, fear and hate in whatever capacity we possess. I believe that the rise of fascistic policies and fear-mongering...

Dear Reader, It’s March, it’s sunny for a change in London and I have seen early flower buds already on the trees. Spring is in the air. My personal update is that I am nearing the completion of my MA Psychotherapy Thesis on polyamory and Psychosynthesis and it’s due to be submitted at the end of this month. Turns out I had lots to say, mostly about polyamory within the context of a mono-normative approach of mainstream psychotherapy. Too much - I need to cut a few thousand words to meet the...

Hi Reader, I hope that your 2023 has started on a positive note. Thanks for subscribing to my website and keeping in touch. I wanted to share some of the events and activities happening this month and beyond, and give a short update. Life update I have been working on my MA dissertation and this is keeping me busy for the next couple of months. Around May or June I hope to publish the finished version and share the outcome of the global Polyamory survey I conducted. If you are struggling...