Dear Reader I am writing to you from Berlin, where I've enjoyed (and also melted a bit) the final week of hot summer, but now as I write, rain forms the background to my thoughts. I am in Berlin not for any particular reason, but being here always feels right. It's a very accepting and open-minded city. For the past few years, when I've visited I held a talk or workshop, and this time is no different. I've partnered again with Sarah from @monogamish_me to offer a 3 hour workshop next...
25 days ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader Summer is in full swing, London is sweltering (both a welcome and a worry at the same time) and everyone around me is planning their festivals and holidays. I figured I will send a concise, double-month newsletter before I too take off for a bit as well. If you are planning to book a session with me, I will be out of reach from the 25th of July to 13 August, aside from a few exceptions seeing regular counselling clients. If you are in or near London, I've shared some of the events...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader I hope spring has arrived where you are in the world. The header picture is from my recent getaway to Lake Como, Italy where spring was in full force. This month, There are quite a few activities happening both online and in-person in London. Keep reading to find out more. At the bottom of this newsletter, I answer a couple of questions from Instagram followers. If you are planning to book a session with me, these are the days this month that I will not be available: 15 May 18-27...
5 months ago • 4 min read
Dear Reader April newsletter is short and to the point. I spent the month of March buried in books and research, racing to submit my MA thesis by the end of month deadling. It is now behind me and I am looking forward to being more active online and in-person with workshops, courses and events. I am open to your feedback, questions and requests on which topics I should cover in upcoming online workshops. The next peer support will be this Sunday, April 7th. I am including in this newsletter a...
6 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader I hope that you are starting to see spring around you. It could be the first buds emerging, new leaves on trees, certain birds returning.. or it could be an internal feeling of emerging from hybernation, renewed curiosity and a sense of adventure. This March newsletter addresses the recent spike of articles and media interest in polyamory - some positive, some negative and much of it uneducated and misdirected. I include links to some of my content that can help clear up some of...
7 months ago • 4 min read
Dear Reader I am not writing to you intentionally on Valentine's day week - I simply didn't get around to sending the newsletter at the start of the month. I had a week's snow-filled holiday at the end of January followed by a scheduled minor operation - a vasectomy, which needed a few days recovery at the start of this month. Curiously when I posted about my vasectomy on Threads, it received more likes by far, than anything I have posted there ever. Someone even accused me of being paid by...
8 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader Happy 2024! How was the holiday period for you? I know that for many, the return to be with family over the holidays can reactivate childhood attachment patterns. This could be a great opportunity to notice in a disidentified way, which patterns from your relationship with care-givers are hampering your ability to have happy, fulfilled, autonomous and conscious relationships. Continue reading below for a special new year's offer (only available in January). Many of those exploring...
9 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader Is there a community for you, where you live? One of the biggest lessons for me, from the years of practicing polyamory, is that a friendship network and feeling of community is the single biggest contributor to overall well-being and sense of emotional security. It's much more important, I believe, than having a romantic partner at all times. And it can be scary, as adults, to seek out platonic friendships. There are lots of dating apps, but not so friendship apps. The good news...
10 months ago • 5 min read
peace is in short supply these days... Dear Reader What's in this newsletter? On needing more love in the world Roy's interview on sensuali.com A new online workshop for couples who are opening up their relationship. Play fighting - new page Having counselling with me Online and in-person events in November/December Question on de-escalating a relationship We need more love in this world I usually write about relationships. About creating and sustaining healthy, conscious, vulnerable and...
11 months ago • 5 min read
peace is in short supply these days... Dear Reader What's in this newsletter? On needing more love in the world Roy's interview on sensuali.com A new online workshop for couples who are opening up their relationship. Play fighting - new page Having counselling with me Online and in-person events in November/December Question on de-escalating a relationship We need more love in this world I usually write about relationships. About creating and sustaining healthy, conscious, vulnerable and...
11 months ago • 5 min read